Adam Hinz: The Blog
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On 2004-10-05 at 10/05/2004 01:37:00 AM...
Knowing that what sticks in people's minds the most from these online journal thingys is whatever is written towards the end, I'm going to write the most important stuff first.First off, I think sometimes I'm given more credit than I deserve. Let me explain what I mean (please note, I'm writing this very carefully inorder to be conherent. Don't misunderestimate me). I got a call last night from a very good friend of mine asking for some advice. He was very concerned that his girlfriend has a drinking problem, and he doesn't trust her drinking in college while he isn't there to protect her.
I'm gonna interrupt myself here. Honestly, I was very flattered that my friend came to me asking for advice. But the thing is, I really am not good in the area of relationships. I mean, what serious relationships have I hever had? I think everything I know about relationships I learned from Full House and the Beatles. Physics comes to mind with the Ideal Gas Laws. Those laws really only work in closed systems, and it's all very predictable. I'm pretty sure things aren't really like that. On another note, I kinda went against myself by even offering anything to my friend. I remember making a conscious decision in 7th grade to stay out of other people's relationships (don't ask). But like I said, he's a very good friend of mine and I really wanted to help.
Ok....so I told my friend to just explain how he felt to his girlfriend, to say he's concerned with the bad side-effects of drinking, especially when you drink rather than study, as he told me. Then I told him that he might be being a little overprotective. His girlfriend's in college, and drinking is typical behavior. I told him ultimatly he cannot control what she does on her own. I told him to not just start up a conversation with that topic, to kinda work his way into it. I also told him to use "I" statements rather than "you" statements (e.g. "I'm worried about all this." rather than "You shouldn't do this.") He seemed to understand, and we ended up just chatting for a good half hour or so.
That was last night. Well tonight I was on AIM and his girlfriend IM'd me saying something like "(name) is talking to me weird" and then the one to whom i talked to last night IM'd me saying "adam help." Well, shit, is what I thought. What have I gotten myself into. I didn't want to be in the middle of a couple's argument/fight/discussion...whatever it was. So rather than try and pull off the ol' talking to both sides at the same time trick, I just signed off. Then I turned off my cell phone. From then on I wanted nothing to do with any of it. None of my business. I haven't gotten on AIM or turned on my cell phone yet. It's been about 4 hours.
I really hope I didn't fuck something up. They're both really really good friends of mine, and I really do think they make a great couple. I just hope they can understand each other and manage to get through this. It would be stupid for shit to happen over this. But I do believe they will work it all out.
Alright, got that off my chest.
In case anyone was wondering how I think about what to write here (probably not, cos nobody reads this damn thing), it works something like this. Every few days something significant happens in my life; significant enough that I want to write about it. What was it today? No, not what's written above, but soemthing that happened on my way to Spanish.
I was leaving Penn Station (mmmmmmm...) on my way to Spanish, and was carrying my backpack with both sleeves over my shoulders and a cup of water in my left hand. I wanted to get my mp3 player from the front pocket of my backpack, so without thinking my cup of water switched over to my right hand. I then pulled my left arm through the backpack sleeve and swung the backpack around my right side so I could reach the front of it. What fascinated me was how automatic the whole process was. If I 'm walking and need something from my backpack like that, I naturally swing it to the right. Somehow I unconsciously (woo two times in one post) knew that in order to swing it the naturally right way, I had to switch with hand was holding my water. I know, this is silly; but it got me thinking about how amazing the human brain is. There was no thinking through, there was no though process that I could directly map in my brain, it was completely automatic. We talked a little bit about the amazing capability of the human brain in my linguistics class. The teacher said that human language is a constant flow of sound coming from our mouths, and there is no separation between words; yet the human brain is able to accept the sound and break it down into separate and distanct words, even syllables, and interpret into what I think he called "Mind-speak" or "Think-speak," I can't remember which one. But anyway, the human brain remarkably does it automatically.
Anyway that's what I wanted to write about.
Caitlin and Kurtis came and visited me this weekend which was great! I love seeing those two. You can see pictures from the weekend on Acupicture2! I hope they come again, since I'm never going to Purdue unless I get a car. But I am going home in 2 weeks, which I'm really looking foward to. I haven't been home or seen my parents since they left me here. Plus, I need more underwear.
Also, tonight I made a basketball goal out of a lambshade. Yeah, I started my CS homework, but then I became fascinated by the small ball Caitlin found on the road, and I started bouncing it off the walls and stuff. Then I looked around looking for something to make a goal out of. First I tried a water pitcher, but that didn't work at all. Then I found the lampshade and the rest was magic.
Yeah, another long post. You don't have to read it all, though if you're reading this you probably already have.
adam